“Master yourself, and become king of the world around you.
Never be a victim of life; be its conqueror.” Mike Norton
Never be a victim of life; be its conqueror.” Mike Norton
It’s true! Anything sighted people can do, visually-impaired or blind people can do it better! Don’t believe me? This photo was taken of me zipping around an actual race track with other blind drivers in Melbourne – have you been there, done that yet?
I’ll admit, I don’t drive a normal boring car – the tech guys are working on it though, I’m imagining the driverless car will be available for blind people soon. What a hoot!
Yes, be warned, we know our limitations and we’ve adapted to this blind-challenge.
Being blind brings a new spin on life. When you accept the ride, you actually find many ways in which to excel, exciting ways in which you can put your ‘foot to the pedal’ and enjoy life to the full. Come and take a back seat and allow us to show YOU the way for a change.
I’m raring to show you five keys to help you navigate through the racetrack of life.
Key 1: blind people are experts in decision makingWe know how to cut down on too many choices and make a decision to save mental energy.
According to research, we all have a limited amount of brain power available to us every day. The more decisions we have to make, the weaker our ability to decide on many aspects of our day. And we can suffer from brain-fatigue too.
The simple act of having to choose between too many options can lead to overload.
When I read this, it became clear to me why as a visually-impaired person, I like to ‘cut to the chase’ and focus on realistic options when I am with sighted people because it allows me to reserve my thinking-battery and be more effective with brain-energy for those other important decisions.
The mere action of getting around is taking up most of my brain and sensory cells in decision making, to stay safe, to negotiate around obstacles, to listen out for sudden changes as I tread carefully around my neighbourhood or for example in the supermarket. My shopping list says ‘orange juice’. Please don’t tell me the other fifty shades of orange – I am really content with my original choice of orange juice.
Making a firm decision once we know our options is also liberating for our sighted helpers: we have freed you from feeling overwhelmed by having to tell us every detail in front of your eyes. Let’s keep the wires clear to our thought process and enjoy the decisions we make with confidence.
Every single day, we are confronted by tasks which would be easier if we could see but our eyes have gone on a long vacation without us so what can we do? We can adapt to seeing the task differently.
Watch how your visually-impaired or blind friend finds creative solutions that meet the task requirement by being resourceful rather than resentful, and good-humoured instead of bad tempered.
We problem solve and avoid frustration by looking for alternative methods to achieve a visual task.
Getting from point A to point B without sight requires practiced skills in problem solving, being tenacious,persistent and open to creative solutions.
Asking a blind person directions is not as silly as it sounds because we have already mapped out the route…going my way?
Key 3: blind people are natural observers
Gathering detail about our environment is not only in the seeing, it is in the feeling, in the knowing, in the observing of tiny details the eyes can miss because they can’t see for looking. Close your eyes and what happens? Your entire body becomes alert to subtle sensory observation.
We are expert detail detectors because we take notice from a variety of sensory skills.
Our ears hear you, our heart feels for genuine communication or awkward silences, our body alerts us to physical changes, our hands hold a picture of life and our intuition has a clear line to a deep knowing that guides us.
Close your busy-body eyes in a café or any other place as an experiment and see how well you begin to observe so much more. Leave your visual prejudice in the dark and open up to the full experience of observing life differently. We actually do see more in the dark than you realise.
Key 4: blind people are awesome time managers
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This is because they know how to manage the task within realistic time constraints and boy, have we had our share of adapting to visual restrictions.
Losing the ability to see means people who are visually-impaired or blind take much more notice of the time it takes to achieve their tasks.
We have to be realistic in setting our goals and pace ourselves.
Time checks are a regular part of our day: as in preparing for an outing, a meeting, a deadline, cooking for our family, organising our children for school.
We have learned the essential skill of keeping time so we can saunter through our task with good old Father Time.
He’s got all the time in the world for each one of us – so take his hand, the minute one or the hour one and be realistic when setting deadlines.
Notice the grace and skill of the blind person who manages time wisely and you too can enjoy the time of your life – every second of it!
Key 5: blind people are ambassadors for living life to the fullYou may not think it possible to rediscover the joy in life when you are losing more of your sight or when you have to face the frightening reality of impending blindness. Your life is never going to be the same, it is true, but it’s going to be different, not necessarily worse.
People who are visually-impaired or blind wake up every morning alongside their sighted loved ones with the same desires: to be happy, to be fulfilled, to be at peace, to feel a sense of belonging, to want to contribute to our families wellbeing, to feel safe and secure emotionally and physically, to take our place in the world, so why would anyone see the one weak part of their life as the whole part of who they are?
I won’t deny it has taken many bumps and bruises to my ego and much effort and soul-searching to understand this ‘blind-life’ but what I have discovered is a real treasure: being blind doesn’t stop anyone from enjoying a fulfilled life.
It’s the choice and decisions we take that can keep us striding onwards like ambassadors for life. Come take our hand and the blind will show you the way to find courage and how to keep your face to the sun even on a cloudy day.
After all, it’s the life we were born to live, so we might as well make it the best one we can…
There you have five ways to see how blind people do it better. I have more in draft but for now, we’d love to hear other key ways from your own experiences…
Copyright © Maribel Steel 2015
Photos Copyright © Harry Williamson