18 Apr 2015

Are You like a Carrot, an Egg or a Coffee Bean?

“One mother teaches more than a hundred teachers.” Proverb

When you come across the words of another writer who touches your heart by the words they write, it is natural that you want to share their story with your friends. Today, I am doing just this – and by the time you have read the following words of wisdom, I hope you gain a different perspective on that next delicious brew of aromatic beans…

A Carrot, an Egg and a Cup of Coffee

by Frances Ship

A young woman went to her mother and told her how hard things were for her. She didn’t know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second, she placed eggs, and in the last, she placed ground coffee beans.

She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. Twenty minutes later, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in another bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in yet another bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.

The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma the daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its insides became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this — which am I?

 Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, breakup, financial hardship or some other trial, did I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, yet on the inside am I bitter and tough, with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or, am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean…

My heartfelt thanks to Jena Fellers, for posting the above article on her brand new blog. Please do visit her site for many more insights,

Changing Focus ...Helps when life's problems cause you to lose your sight

You may also like to read:

Love is Blind – the Tale of Two Horses (Sept 2013)

Love and Kindness (April 2013)

Photos Copyright © Harry Williamson 2015

No comments: